How I Trained Myself To Stick To Any Good Habit in 21 Days How I Trained Myself To Stick To Any Good Habit in 21 Days Sticking to a habit feels harder than it should. Most of us start strong but give up after a few days — I’ve been there too. But this time, I decided to change that and trained myself to stick to any good habit in just 21 days. Here’s exactly how I did it so you can try it too. The First Thing - Remove All the Distractions Remove all the bad habits first. Stop scrolling reels, stop eating junk food. And try not to use social media unless it’s a part of your work. Remember, “When a man gets pleasure, he forgets his goals.” Being Bored is Better Than Scrolling Reels Studies show that embracing boredom actually helps your mental health and builds long-term thinking. Scrolling reels might entertain you for a moment, but it kills focus in the long run. If you want real growth and want to rise above, learn to sit with boredom. Plan Your Day Realistically...
Pain Is Part of Life — Choose Your Hard
A practical reflection on why pain is unavoidable, how it shapes people differently, and why choosing the right kind of struggle matters.
Pain is a part of life. It cannot be removed from your story unless you are dead — or, in very rare cases, born into unimaginable wealth and privilege. Even then, wealth can bring its own pressures: expectations, legacy maintenance, and the isolation of always having to protect what you have. For most people who don’t come from a lot of money, pain is not only unavoidable — it’s the raw material of progress.
When I say “pain,” I mean both the physical discomforts of hard work and the mental strain of ambition. Pain is the only consistent currency many of us start with. Some people wake before the world — early mornings at 5:00 or 6:00 AM — and grind toward a dream. Others wake at 7:00 AM and, by chance or choice, become millionaires. Still others wake up and head to jobs that don’t satisfy their deeper aspirations but pay the bills. The common thread is this: everyone experiences pain, but the destination of that pain changes the story.
If pain exists on both sides, why not take the route that builds you? Why not choose growth?
Choosing the growth route means accepting a particular kind of hardship: long hours, early mornings, risk, and periods of doubt. It is the kind of pain that says, “I will trade comfort now for a different kind of freedom later.” That freedom might look like financial independence, creative ownership, or the ability to wake up excited about the work you do. It might also mean building something that outlives you — a legacy created intentionally, brick by brick.
On the other hand, working for someone else can also be hard. Low-paying, demanding jobs often demand real physical effort and emotional labor. People who work long shifts to support families — or to keep a roof over their heads — feel a legitimate and heavy strain. Their stress is real, and so is the wisdom of steady work in many life circumstances. The important point is this: neither path is pain-free. The difference is what the pain is buying you.
Building a business or pursuing an ambitious dream usually comes with a different pattern of pain — more mental stress, more uncertainty, and many nights when sleep comes late. Entrepreneurs, creators, and founders often trade security for the possibility of autonomy. They might be awake until 2:00 or 3:00 AM worrying about cashflow, teams, or product decisions. Those late nights are not glamorous; they’re the price of ownership.
But here’s a simple reframing that helps: choose your hard. Both paths are hard. One option builds mental toughness, self-reliance, and a unique set of skills that belong to you. The other option provides relative stability and predictable rewards — often enriching someone else’s dream while you fund it. Neither option is morally superior for every person; it comes down to your goals, responsibilities, and appetite for risk.
If you have a mind and a body and the freedom to choose, ask yourself what you want to be buying with your pain. Do you want to spend your twenties building someone else’s dream, or investing in a vision that will one day belong to you? Do you want to accept a comfortable routine that keeps stress low but growth limited, or do you want short-term sacrifice for long-term upside?
Growth is not a promise of easy success. It’s a commitment to becoming better through hard seasons. It’s waking up early because the work matters to you, not because you must answer to a clock. It’s staying awake some nights because you care enough to test, learn, and iterate. And it’s allowing the pain to shape your character rather than just your paycheck.
So use the tools you have — your attention, your curiosity, and your physical energy — intentionally. If you decide to build, accept the mental strain and manage it with routines, support, and small wins. If you decide to work for someone else, do it with pride and mastery so the life you get is worthwhile. Either way, make the struggle meaningful.
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